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The common refrain today is “preach Christ and not Church. Afterall there is no church in heaven”
So of recent I have decided to follow that line of thought but it is simply not making sense.
The more I preach Christ the more the church is featured.
The Christ I am told to preach only is the one who promised to build a church. Matt 16:18 And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.
The Christ I am told to preach only is the one who died and his blood used to purchase the church. Act 20:28 Take heed therefore unto yourselves, and to all the flock, over the which the Holy Ghost hath made you overseers, to feed the church of God, which he hath purchased with his own blood.
The Christ I am told to preach only is the one declared to be the head of the church. Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Dear friends, it is practically impossible to separate Christ from the church.
The church is the orientation agency of Christ. Eph 3:10 To the intent that now unto the principalities and powers in heavenly places might be known by the church the manifold wisdom of God,
The church is the home of the saved who have been rescued from the kingdom of darkness. Act 2:47 Praising God, and having favour with all the people. And the Lord added to the church daily such as should be saved.
The church today is liken to the ark built by Noah. Those who were inside escaped the flood. If you are not inside, you are outside.
The church of Christ is not so much a name, as it is a description.. We are a congregation of people who belong to Christ. Each of us recognized the sins in his or her life and came to God for salvation as the Bible instructs.
We do not use creeds, teachings of men or revelation newer than the Holy Bible. We are simply Christians following the teachings of Jesus, His apostles, and prophets found in the New Testament. It is our commitment to live by these teachings to the best of our ability.
Our Worship
When you visit our assemblies, you will be greeted and feel welcome. These are the things you will find us doing in our worship services:

On the first day of every week, we observe the Lord’s Supper in His memory, in the manner He has prescribed in the New Testament.

At our Sunday assemblies, we cheerfully contribute to the work of the church of our own free will as directed. We do not ask non-members to financially support our work.

At every assembly, we pray...more than once. Prayer is a part of what we do as a congregation, as well as privately each day.

We love to sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. It is the most often heard comment of visitors...I so enjoyed your singing."

We listen to messages from God's Word. Biblically sound sermons are an edifying way to grow nearer to the Lord.
We invite you to come and study with us at any church of Christ near you. There is power in following the pattern set by Christ for his people for all ages. We believe that the Bible explains everything we need to know to best live our days and go to heaven when our earthly days are over. If this is you, we will be happy to talk with you or study with you from the Bible as you seek to learn more about God and bring your life into harmony with His will. 
Put together by Mike Udam and powered by Evangelismportal2017

Analysis of Anger

Anger, in simple words, is one's reaction to feeling threatened. It starts from discomfort and leads to irritation, and at times it aggravates to violent rage. Anger is often mistaken for aggression. Terms such as hostility, aggression, and mood swing are used almost as a substitute for Anger, however there is a thin line of difference between them.

Hostility − While anger is the driving emotion, our own interpretation and judgment of situations result in Hostility. Hostility breeds and encourages Aggression.

Aggression − Aggression is the behavior that has the tendency to harm people/property. It is the final outcome of the anger brewing inside us.

Mood Swing − It is a lingering emotional state which can range from irritation to violent expressions of anger. When the mood is at its peak, it completely overtakes every other emotion. Interestingly, the word 'mood' derives from the old English word 'mōd' which means 'courage'.

Negatives of Anger

Rohan lives in an apartment. He wakes up one morning and finds someone has moved his bike from its parking spot without his consent. He first experiences a discomfort at someone having encroached the private space of his property. Slowly but surely, anger starts to brew. "Oh, sure! Go on − treat me like a worthless guy! Why even bother asking me for anything!" A hostile mental environment forms due to this interpretation of the situation.

While he was still talking to himself in anger, suddenly his son appears and asks him to help fix the fan. Already disturbed with his internal conflicts, Rohan yells out, reducing his son to tears. This venting out might have calmed Rohan temporarily, but the guilt and shame inside him for having hurt his son makes him grumpy and disagreeable for the rest of the morning. At work, the colleagues will notice and whisper among themselves − “Rohan is in a bad mood today.”


Charcoal is one of the most disregarded products at home. We only see the need for it when it is time to set fire for Banku.
However, if you really need first aid, charcoal is something you need to have on you all the time. You might not know this but it is one of the most medicinal products you can have at home due to its poison extraction ability.
In case you never gave it much attention, this is the time to do so. Here are *13* benefits of charcoal you never thought about.

1. Preventing Odour
Does your shoe smell bad? Just get some charcoal & put it in them. Do you have any bad smell in your room? Drop some charcoal where you suspect the smell could be coming from. Does your fridge or freezer smell? Put a piece of charcoal in it. Do you have strong body odour? Just make a powder out of charcoal & use.
Charcoal is very good at getting rid of bad smell. Ever wondered why your parents always scooped out the ash from the coal pot to pour in the hen coop or toilet before sweeping? That was to get rid of the odour.

2. Keeping_Food_Fresh
If you want your vegetables to be fresh all the time, just make a solution out of charcoal & leave your vegetables in them. Thank us later.

3. Removing toxins From Food
These days, people complain about the use of fertilizers on plants & vegetables, making them unwholesome & poisonous. If you have charcoal, you don’t need to worry about this. All you need to do is leave the vegetables in a charcoal solution overnight & it’ll take care of the toxins. If you suspect any food contains too many chemicals, just drop them in a charcoal solution for some hours & you’re good to go.

4. For teeth Whitening
If you want to whiten your teeth, pay no attention to all these adverts on whitening chemicals & technology. Just get yourself some charcoal & grab hold of a plantain stalk. Make a powder out of the charcoal, mash the tip of the plantain stalk, dip it into the charcoal powder & brush your teeth with it for a week.

5. Restoring_Soup_That_Went_Bad
Did your groundnut soup or palm nut soup go bad? No need to worry about pouring it all away. Just put it back on fire & drop a piece of charcoal in it. This will extract all the bad taste & smell & restore the soup to its fresh state.

6. Detoxifying
Do you have a hangover out of a drink out with friends the previous night? Just have some charcoal with you & chew on it. To make it more effective, make a nice solution out of it & drink. You’re good to go.

7. Neutralizing Alcohol
If you mistakenly did some wild mixing & feel it can knock you out, just add some charcoal to the mixture & your problem is solved. Or if you took in too much alcohol, just drink some charcoal solution & you’re good to go.

8. Healing Wounds
Do you have a situation where someone’s wound has become so infected to the state doctors are saying they have to cut the affected area? Don’t stress over it, get a large amount of charcoal powder & pour it on the wound. This will extract all the poison from the wound & also help it heal faster. If you have a cut & you want to treat it fast, just get some powdered charcoal & pour on it.

9. Water Filtration
Do you feel your water is contaminated? You don’t need all these products on the market. Charcoal can do better, just drop some amount of it in it. Don’t worry about the colour, it is safe, you can even chew on charcoal. It is far safer than eating chicken from KFC.

10. Skin Cleansing
Do you have pimples, acne or any skin disease you really want to get rid of or do you want a very smooth face or skin? All you need is charcoal. Make a thick solution out of it & smear it on your body & leave it on for some hours before taking your bath. It will leave your skin smooth & fresh.

11. Stain removal
Do you have some stubborn stain in your kitchen, washroom or on your tiles? You actually need charcoal to get rid of it. I know you’re imagining how this black stainy product can actually remove stains right? Just try it, it works like magic.

12. Getting rid of a Bloated Stomach
If you ate or drank something & feel bloated, charcoal is the best solution to get rid of the bloating.

13. Get Rid of bad Cholesterol
Making a solution out of it & drinking helps eliminate all the bad cholesterol you have stored in you.

14. Ulcer Treatment
Charcoal can treat all ulcers. Just make it a habit to always chew some.


Christmas though claimed to be Christian festival is not found in the bible.
Christmas is a word that evolved from the fusion of two separate words Christ and mass. While Christ mean messiah, mass refer to a religious ritual performed by a denominational group as part of her self-willed practice and worship.

The origin of Christmas and its celebration cannot be traced from the bible but history point it to bishop liberious of Rome, who order the people then to celebrate Christmas on December 25th as the birth day of Christ in the year 354AD. See word book encyclopedia Vol.3 page 416. However before December 25th was finally chosen as the birth day of Christ and for its celebration, various dates were selected such as January 6th , march 25th and December 25th . See comptions puetered encyclopedia vol.3 page 332.
History also states, according to the Christian calendar page 21, word book encyclopedia vol. 3 page 416 and the new illustrated encyclopedia of kwonledge page 112 that December 25th was mainly chosen then to be the birth day Christ and the celebration of its as Christmas, in order to dissociate the roman “Christian” from participating with the roman pagans who were celebrating their roman feast of Saturn,in which the celebrate the birth day of the sun(the roman god of agriculture and vegetables) on the same day of December 25th
Furthermore, because Christmas festival is not found in the bible but modified pagan feasts by the Romans some of the practices which were being done during the celebration of the pagan feast of Saturn in Rome were also incorporated in the Christmas celebration, eg Christmas tree, yule log, giving of presents and decoration of houses. See the New illustration Encyclopedia of knowledge page 112.
Christmas is not a christen feast, so we must not observe it for the following reasons
The origin is the way of the heathen and in Jeremiah 10:1-6, God warned his people not to learn the way of the heathens. What dose Xmas tree represent? The book of Jeremiah 10:2-4 state “thus says the lord” do not learn the way of heathen; do not be dismayed at the signs of heaven for the heathen are dismayed at them. For the custom of the people are futile; for one cuts a tree from the forest. The work of the hands of the workman, with the axe. They decorate it with silver and gold;, they fasten it with nails and harmers, so that it will not topple” see the wisdom of man.
Do not forget that we are disusing why you should not celebrate Christmas-the second point is that “the narration of the fact of Christ’s birth is not a command but a fulfillment of prophecy
The dates which were fixed by men are not uniform but laced with confusion as Eastern Europe observes Christmas as January 6, others on 18th and 19th. God is not the Author of confusion. See 1 cor.14:33
Christ did not begin his existence from here. See col. 1:15-17 “who is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of every creature: for by him were all things created, that are in heaven and that are in earth visible and invisible, whether they be thrones or dominions or principalities, or power; all things were created by him and for him and he is before all things, and by him all things consist’. Thus, his birth into the world is clearly known and should be understood only as God’s manifestation “in the flesh 1 tim.3:16. “And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness. God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the spirit, seen of angles, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory”. So needless to celebrate his birth as he had existed before time and season.
Christmas should not be celebrated by true Christians because anything we do religiously is Christianity must be done in the name (authority) of our lord Jesus Christ which can only be found in the New Testament scripture. Therefore, the facts that Christmas festival is nowhere to be found in the new testament scriptures either by being commanded or by being celebrated by Christ himself, his apostles, or the early Christians, evidently shows that such religious feast is not authorized by Christ our only lawgiver, the author and finisher of our faith, rather it is a commandment from men which Christ condemned totally in the scriptures. See James 4:12, Heb 12:2, col. 3:17
It is a blatant fallacy to make Christmas Christians festival, because there is no command from Christ or any act of apostles (Apostolic example) to authenticate its celebrations. This is the wisdom of men which does not adore God even as Christ as stated in his word “But in vain they do worship men, teaching for doctrines the commandment of men.” Matt. 15:9. Man cannot replace the word of God with his own and be accepted.
The bible says for I bear them record that they have a zeal of God, but not according to knowledge for they being ignorant of God’s righteousness and going about to established their own righteousness have not submitted themselves to the righteousness of God Rom.10:1-3. God has never left man unguided in man’s search to please him. Hence, the warning” and whatsoever you do in words or deed, do all in the Name of the lord jesus, giving thanks to God and the father by him Col. 3:17. “in the name of the lord Jesus” quoted above means in the authority Christ and Christ has commanded. Whereas, the bible says there is ignorant worship. Rom.10:1-3, there is vain worship. Matt. 15:9 but the true and acceptable worship must flow from a sincere heart and must be done in truth. John 4:24

The worshipers of the living God are expected to walk by faith and not by sight. Not by of wisdom of men but by the will of God. (11Cor. 5:7, 1Thess. 2:3-5) Christ commanded the Christians should celebrate a feast to remember his death not his birth. Math 26:26-30, 1Cor. 11:23-26. We would not serve God and be pleasing on him if the items of such service are born out of our instinct. Christmas is traced to a pagan feast in the then Rome and it is idolatry. Therefore, no matter how enticing and glamorous it may be, it does not glorify God and all the celebration amount to ignorance, waste and heresy ….BEWARE!!!


The world today believes that “Christmas” is the birthday of Jesus Christ. But it should be noted that the word “Christmas” is derived from two words – “Christ” and “mas”.

We Christians know that the word “Christ” means the Messiah or the One sent to redeem us from sin. On the other hand, the word “Mas”, according to James Gibbons, a Catholic scholar, is derived from the Catholic sacrifice of Mass (during Eucharist or Holy Communion celebration). Candles are usually burnt during the process. ( See Faith of Our Fathers, page 355).

Thus, it is clear that the word “Christmas” has nothing to do with birthday. The word is therefore a misnomer for our Lord’s birthday as Christ and Mas do not connote Christ’s birthday. We Christians must therefore separate our Lord (Christ) from Mass as the term, apart from lacking support of scriptures, does not mean birthday.

Before the advent of Christianity, the Roman heathen had the feast of Winter Solstice (i.e feast of the sun) usually celebrated in December period.

It is said that with the advent of Christianity and consequently Catholicism, many of the heathen believed in Christ. In spite of this “conversion” they were still observing the heathen feast of Winter Solstice. So, in 354 AD a Roman Catholic bishop named Liberius declared December 25 as Christ’s birthday so that instead of worshipping the Sun, the heathen who have been converted to “Christianity” will now use the occasion to worship the Son of God (See World Book Encyclopaedia Vol. 3 Page 1425). So, “Christmas” has its origin from paganistic heathenism, 321 years after Christianity started in AD 33. This might be a good idea humanly speaking. But in matters of faith, we cannot think for God as His ways are not our ways Isa 55:6-9.

The Bible has record of Christ’s birth in Matt. 1:18-21 and in other corresponding passages of Mark and Luke but the date is not recorded. In Deut 29:29, the Bible says that the secret things belong to God but those that are revealed to us belong to us. So, if God and the Holy Spirit did not disclose the birthday of Christ to us in the Bible, the silence of the Holy Spirit and God in that regard must be respected. Otherwise, it will be an addition to the word of God to purport to fix a date as Bishop Liberius did in AD 354. Please note that God warns against such unauthorised addition to His word towards the beginning of the Scriptures in Deut 4:2, that warning was sounded; in the middle of the scriptures in Prov 30:5-6, the warning was re-echoed and finally at the end of scriptures in Rev. 22:18-19 the warning and its consequences were laid down by the Holy Spirit. So, let us avoid the wrath of God and desist from any act that will amount to an addition to God’s word.

December 25 is a common assumption as the birthday of Christ just as we have other common assumptions that are erroneous in the Christendom today. For example, it is often assumed by many that “three wise men” brought gifts to Christ when He was born. But please my dear reader/listener have you ever taking time out to find out if the number of wise men was given in the scripture? The story of the wise men’s visit when Christ was born is recorded in Matt. 2:1-11 and the Bible only reveals that wise men came from the east to Jerusalem Matt.2:1. The fact that the wise men presented three different types of gifts to Jesus in Matt. 2:11 does not automatically mean that the visitors were three. The only truth that can be derived from Matt. 2:1 is that the visitors were in their plural. They could have been two, three or even more. Two visitors can present three types of gifts (if one brings two types of gifts and the other brings the third gift, just the same way more that three visitors can present the same gifts). Other erroneous assumptions in the Christendom include, Catholic Church being the first church. This is wrong because the Church of Christ, established in AD 33 (Acts 2) is the first church. Also, many do refer to the building where the church worships as the church. From the Bible point of view, the word “church” is derived from the Greek word eklesia meaning “the called out”, “a gathering” or “an assembly”. The church can worship anywhere that is convenient for her to assemble or gather.

Moreover, it should be noted that from the Bible point of view, Jesus could never have been born in December going by the account of Lk 2:1-8. This is because in verse 8 of that passage, we read that when Christ was born, Shepherds were seen abiding in the field keeping watch over their flock. Those who are familiar with the city where Christ was born know that Shepherds are not normally seen in the field during winter, which is the period of December.

If God had intended that Christians should celebrate the birthday of Christ, it would have been clearly stated in scriptures. After all, God did it before in the Old Testament when he wanted the Jews to celebrate Passover, He gave them the exact date to be on the 14th of the first month. Ex.13:4; Lev.23:5; Num.9:2-3. So, giving date is not a big deal to God.

The only feast meant for Christians to celebrate in honour of Christ in a religious sense is the Lord’s Supper otherwise known as the Holy Communion Matt 26:26; Acts 20:7; ICor.11:23-30. Observe it with great respect and honour for Christ because it is a remembrance of the death and resurrection of Christ, which is the bedrock of the Christian faith. But unfortunately, this is the feast most neglected by those who claim to be Christians No instruction could be more clear than “Do this in remembrance of me” as clearly stated in ICor. 11:26.

Let us note the following facts: a) Christ did not celebrate His birthday when He was alive; b) His disciples did not celebrate it either; c) The Bible did not command us expressly nor impliedly to observe Christ’s birthday; therefore to observe it is an addition to the word of God which is punishable according to Deut 4:2; Prov. 30:6; Rev. 22:18-19.

CONCLUSION: It is only sentiment that makes people to think that if Jesus was such a great man in history then his birthday must be observed by his followers. But we should not forget that we cannot think for God. His thoughts are different from ours (Isa 59:8-9). Moreover, statistics has shown that the sins of fornication, drunkenness and reckless driving leading to unwarranted accidents are more during the so-called Christmas celebration. Can this be the best way to mark the birthday of the One who came to seek and save the lost and saved us from our sins?? Lk 19:10; Matt 1: 21. Definitely not!

What therefore should Christians do during Christmas since December 25 has been universally accepted by men as the birthday of Christ? The period should merely be observed as just any other holiday. But definitely not the way the people of the world mark it with all sorts of sins. The fact that the whole world has accepted it does not mean acceptance by God. After all, the Bible says in Romans 3:4   “……….let God be true and every man liar”....

Jeremiah 10:1-5....origin of Christmas tree

No one must die of cancer

Mukul Kanitkar: He is famous doctor at AIIMS in the department of oncology ( cancer ) . Please take out few min to listen him

No one must die of cancer except out of carelessness;

(1). First step is to stop all sugar intake, without sugar in your body, cancer would die a natural death.

(2). Second step is to blend a whole lemon fruit with a cup of hot water and drink it for about 1-3 months first thing before food and cancer would disappear, research by Maryland College of Medicine says, it's 1000 times better than chemotherapy.

(3). Third step is to drink 3 spoonfuls of organic coconut oil, morning and night and cancer would disappear.

You can choose any of the two therapies after avoiding sugar.
Ignorance  is no excuse;

I have been sharing this information for over 5 years. Let everyone around you know, it's a sacrilege for anyone this day to die of cancer;
God bless.
Enjoy your wonderful day.

The Power of A Paradigm Shift

How did you feel when you notice that there's nothing like ‘Old school’ but ‘Old's cool?’

How did you react the day you discovered that 'i.e' doesn't mean 'that is' but 'in essence'?

Did you marvel at your knowledge when you read that it is not 'ayamatagar'  but ‘I am at anger?’

If you didn't, I did. I was just surprised the day I discovered all of these but amazingly I changed my views immediately.  That is the power of a paradigm shift.

A paradigm (not paradigim) is a model, and a model is a representation of something.

For humans, our paradigm, model or map is what determines the reality we see or is a representation of reality.

Hence, the map (our perception of reality) is not the territory (reality).

For instance, two people might see something an give a different report. But whatever report they give is based on how they see reality not reality itself.

This explains why where we stand depends on where we sit.

You may have attended many seminars where you were told to ‘never give up. Work hard’ etc but if you fail to deal with the real problem, which often is how you see a problem, nothing would work.

For instance, no matter how you develop a positive attitude, given the wrong map, you'll only get to the wrong direction faster.

You might not have achieved all of your goals because you have the wrong map about success but you can correct that map to make the best of next year.

Through the admission of ignorance which is the first step in our education, we can easily correct out maps by starting through an inside out approach.

We all need a new level of thinking to create the kind of life we want for ourselves. And such can only happen from inside out.

My point?
Change how you see things.

The power of a paradigm shift is the essential power of quantum change.

By changing how you see things, the things you see change, and success becomes easy to get.


"Dad, can you loan me N500,000?," Kola asked his father.
"What for son?," his father asked.
"For my wedding.
"By our calculations, we're falling short meeting the cost."
Kola had come to meet his parents with his fiancé.
"Your wedding?
"How much is the total cost of the wedding?," his father asked.
"N3.6 million.
"We're thinking of starting the committee next week.
"We can together give about N800,000 and expect our friends to help us raise about N2 million.
"I remember you told me if ever I need help, I can come to you," Kola answered.
His father held him by the shoulder and said, "Go get your wife and come meet me in my study room."
"Yes, dad," Kola obliged.

Minutes later, Kola and his fiancé, Tomilayo, walked into his father's study room.
"Having a good time, my daughter?," Kola's father asked.
"Yes I am.
"You and your wife are so hospitable.
"I pray that Kola and I can emulate your marriage.
"You are an admirable couple," answered Kola's fiance.
"Thank you.
"I am delighted to have you as my daughter.
"This is your home, you're welcome anytime," said father.

They sat down.

"Thank you dad."
"So, I hear you want to spend N3.6 million for your wedding and you need me to help with N800,000?," asked father.
"Yes, we will greatly appreciate," said the fiancé.
"The wedding will be at the Total Garden, Ibadan in about six months time," said Kola.
"Why do you want to have a big wedding?," father asked.
"Well, it's our big day.
"She's always dreamt of a big wedding," Kola replied.
"Have you dreamt of a big wedding or a strong marriage?," the father asked the fiancé.
"When you put it that way, it's more of a strong marriage," said the fiancé.
"You've answered wisely.
"So who do you expect to come for your wedding?," asked the father.
"Friends and relatives.
"About seven hundred people," answered Kola.
"How many true friends do you really have?
"I mean friends who have been tried and tested to be there for you through thick and thin?," asked the father.
Kola and Tomilayo looked at each other.
"Countable," the fiancé answered.
"So who are these other people who will come to your wedding?," asked the father.


"OK. Let's go to the relatives.
"I know you love your relatives, but how many are really close to you?
"You barely talk with the many relatives you have," said the father.
"What are you trying to say dad?," asked Kola.
"My son, my daughter; why do you want to spend N3.6 million on a wedding, a one-day event, yet you need the money in your marriage
"Look, you are actually coming to ask me for money, you will form a committee to ask people for money; all to show off and please people, who will not even matter in your marriage!"


The father continued, "Let me share with you my experience.
"When I married your mother, we spent about a million for the wedding.
"That was a lot of money then.
"We fed people, got stressed by service providers, just so that we put up a wedding that will win the applause of a crowd.
"But as soon as we got married, the crowd disappeared.
"All the issues that your mother and I went through, no one cared, even family couldn't do much.
"Every one is busy living their life.
"When things got tough, the crowd gossiped about us, some even seemed happy that our marriage was in trouble!"


"I have seen this script repeated over and over.
"Brides get stressed on their wedding day, they can't even enjoy, couples being angry at friends who don't support them financially, the worst part is starting marriage in debt or struggling financially.
"Do you know a wedding doesn't have to cost so much, it doesn't have to be stressful, it doesn't have to be full of people who perhaps will never talk to you again?," added the father.
"But dad, what will people think if we do a small wedding or we don't invite them?" asked the fiancé.
"Are you getting married for people?
"If you have a small wedding with only the witnesses who matter, will you two not be married
"What is all this competition of who has a grand wedding for?
"People are competing on Facebook, in weddings; why this need to show off?
"You know that money you are about to blow in one day, you can use it to invest in your marriage, you can start the process of buying or building a home, you can save up for the needs of the children you will have because you need money to raise a family.
"Why not start your marriage financially healthy and not in debt?
"Marriage is what is more important than a wedding," continued the father.
"Dad, if you don't want to support us it's OK," said Kola.
The fiancé stopped him, saying, "No my love, dad has a point.
"I actually find the idea of a small wedding not just wise and economical, but also intimate.
"Marriage is just you and me, not people."

The father spoke, "My son, in all the years you have been a man, you have never come to me asking for money, but now you are asking for money to put up a show?
"I look further, I look at your marriage.
"I admire how people come together in a wedding committee to raise money and I wonder, what if couples and people use that same energy to put up a business that will uplift families.
"Those members who will be part of your wedding committee, imagine if they become your investors, imagine if you build a company where you can make profit and feed your homes.
"Something sustainable."

Kola and his fiancé nodded.

"My son, I have longed for the day you would come and ask me to invest in your business idea.
"But today I will make the first move," the father said taking his cheque book from his drawer.
He wrote on the cheque then gave it to the fiancé.
"Here my son, this is a cheque of N5 million, not for your wedding, but as start up capital for a business of your choice.
"I am giving the cheque to your wife, because as Proverbs 31 said, she is to walk with you in building an empire for your family.
"Focus on your family, give your family the best; forget about the public and opinions of people who don't matter.
"Build a future for your family.
"Build your family on a foundation of surplus not debt."
"Thank you so much," said the fiancé.

Kola stood up with tears in his eyes.

His father stood up too.

The father and son hugged.

"Thank you dad for being a great figure and your counsel.
"I don't know what to say.
"You have challenged me not to merely get married but to have a vision, a vision for my family.
"I don't know what to say" he said.
The father held his shoulder, "You will make a great husband and father.
"I wish I had the same counsel when I was getting married, all those people I fed on my wedding day didn't add value to my marriage.
"In fact, if I was to organise an event and feed multitudes, I would do so for the less-fortunate and those in need.
"Marriage is not for show."

Changed behavior

A young lady was waiting for her flight in the Boarding Room of a big airport. As she would need to wait many hours, she decided to buy a book to spend her time, and also bought a packet of cookies. She then
sat down in an armchair, in the VIP room of the airport, to rest and read in peace.

Beside the armchair, where the packet of cookies lay, a man sat down in the next
seat, opened his magazine and started reading. When she took out the first cookie,
the man took one also. She felt irritated, but said nothing. She just thought “What a nerve! If I was in the mood, I would punch
him for daring!” And, for each cookie she took,
the man took one too.

This was infuriating her, but she didn't want to cause a scene. When only one cookie remained, she thought: “Ah... what would
this abusive man do now?” Then, the man, taking the last cookie, divided it into half, giving her one half.

What? That was too much! She was much too angry now! In a huff, she insulted the man, took her book and her things, and stormed out to the boarding place. When she sat down in her seat, inside the plane, she looked into her bag, to take her eyeglasses and, to her
surprise, her packet of cookies was there, untouched, and unopened! She felt so ashamed! She realized that she was wrong. She had forgotten that her cookies were in her bag. The man had shared his cookies with her, without feeling angered or bitter, while she
had been very angry, thinking that she was sharing her own cookies with him. And now, there was no chance to explain herself...nor to apologize!

In life, there are 4 things that you cannot recover…
1. The cake… after it's eaten!
2. The word... after it’s spoken!
3. The occasion... after it's lost!
4. The time… after it’s spent!

Let's all be careful and watch our ATTITUDE

"The Best apology is a changed Behaviour"


I get lots of questions on masturbation most especially from ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I'm not here to
argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.

Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hearsays about sex.
Masturbation is fondling your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their clitorises, while guys rub, massage or caress their penises.
Some ladies especiallly non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos and recently Cucumber or whatever represents a penis and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).
From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex.

It's a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense!
You may wake up feeling horny for no single reason in the world or go hot on spotting a curvy lady!
You may start noticing shapes and curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep the images off.
You may get worked up on watching a romantic movie and discharge something.
You check up and discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven't committed any sin.
So what then do you do when you get hot and horny? Have sex? I know you know my answer and some singles will never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate!
They give themselves release and pleasure through solo sex while claiming virginity at the same time. Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:

1. Masturbation is not done in isolation. It is done with the image of someone in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating. This is MENTAL FORNICATION!!!

2. For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infections into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had sex with any man except objects during your solo sex.

3. You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don't enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism.
If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won't be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won't have feelings for your husband's penis. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands penises are too small didn't marry as virgins. They must have been promiscuous as singles.

4. You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience premature ejaculation and your wife won't enjoy you, this can lead to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure.
A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating. Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding, leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated.
She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having affairs. Self control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too.
That is why total virginity pays!!!

5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ retarded ejaculation. A situation where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or reaching orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm?
Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours and is unable to ejaculate. How will the woman get pregnant?
It's the reason some women are seemingly "barren" and can't talk to anybody out of embarrassment.
Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether.
You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate.
Abstaining from this degrading and ungodly act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that comes with sex IN MARRIAGE!

6. You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown face (demonic entities other wise known as spiritual spouses).

7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.

8. You start getting unsatisfied and wanting the real thing.
You fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.

9. You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or trousers, hence, you become promiscuous.

10. You get damaged, hurt and broken.

11. You are at risk of hell fire!
These and more are the consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces! What then should you do with your sexual urge?

How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?

1. Avoid all dirty pictures, pornography videos, pictures and hot, romantic movies -they are powerful sexual triggers!

2. Avoid friends who say dirty, lewd and obscene things. Stop all sexy banters with friends and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful.

3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.

4. Transmute your sexual energy: Channel your sexual energy into something great....

For those into it already, it's never too late to stop!
Realization leads to manifestation..
You need to realize that this is an ungodly and damming act and hence, be determined to stop such and with the help of Christ, you can be victorious over such..

All you need do is to surrender to Jesus Christ totally.. Only He can help you..
Avoid those all mentioned in 1 and 2 above on how to handle your sexual hunger..

Never leave your mind idle for such thoughts to bear fruits(Let God's Word be used to overcome such thoughts.. Meditate on the Word)

Finally, seek counsel,  meet up with a counsellor,  more especially in Church; one in whom you can tell it to exactly as it is..

Man o man

Man, O Man!
When without money, eats vegetables at home.
When he has money, eats the same vegetables in a fine restaurant.

When without money, rides a bicycle to and from home.
When he has money rides an  ‘exercise bicycle’ at the gym.

When without money, walks to earn food.
When he has money, walks to burn fat.

Man, O Man! Never fails to deceive thyself!

When without money, wishes to get married;
When he has money, wishes to get divorced.

When without money, wife becomes secretary;
When he has money, secretary becomes wife.

When without money, acts like a rich man.
When he has money acts like a poor man.

Man, O Man! Never can tell the simple truth!

Says share market is bad, but keeps speculating.
Says money is evil, but keeps accumulating.
Says high positions are lonely, but keeps wanting them.
Says gambling & drinking is bad, but keeps indulging.

Man, O Man! Never means what he says and never says what he means..

Life is not about what you couldn't do so far, it's about what you can still do.
N200 seems too much to give a beggar but it seems okay when its given as tip at a fancy restaurant.

Praying to God for 3 minutes
takes too much time but
watching a movie for 3 hours doesn't.

Two poor starving kids sitting on the pavement
weren't given even a slice of bread but a painting of them is sold for hundred dollars.

Think about It..
Make a change, because you can ....
Here are six easy ways to earn, even after death.

1) Give a smile or gift to someone. Each time you give a smile, it will make someone's day. You gain.

2) Donate a wheelchair to a hospital. Each time a sick person uses it, you gain.

3) Participate in building an orphanage, or a hospital or a school or a college. Anybody uses it, you gain.

4) Place a water cooler in a public place. When someone drinks the water, you gain.

5) Plant a tree. Whenever a person, animal sits in its shade or eats from it, you gain.

6) And the easiest of all is, share this message with people. Even if one applies any of the above, you gain.

I just did. Thanks for reading

Christian Stay awake

Matthew 24:42 (ESV)  Therefore, stay awake, for you do not know on what day your Lord is coming.

The sequence of prophecy were been outlined. Line upon line, Jesus broke the seal of the future's secret. They asked and listened. Good for the moment. But they were to stay awake if they must see these things come to pass without being overwhelmed by it.

So is it today that the future is upon us and still yet. Things written millennia ago playing out like live screen. Almost as though we could never know. Almost happening all too fast and swallowing many on its path. Stay awake, he says. Sharpen your focus and be alert, christian. Only those who are alert will see danger and avert it. Only those who sleep not will see glory and embrace it.

Missing rib should be free

Adam woke up & saw his missing rib standing beside him for free... But I have to go everywhere looking for mine. Pray and fast, convince her with calls and messages, Tantalizes and gifts. Then go to her village and spend my savings. All this for my own rib that got missing. This is totally unfair, I didn't even loose then rib out of carelessness. It was taken from me without my consent. This is unfair.  We have to protest

We will protest. Missing ribs must return for free.


Yes! you may be knocked down many times by challenges of life but refuse to give up for there is a sweet story at the end of the journey.

Many have been knocked down and stayed down because of the lack of courage to rise and continue the race. They gave up so easily even when they were at a stone throw to their destinations. Don't join them.

Persevere in the face of  diversity and keep going when faced with problems of life. You may lose some battles today but you will win the war if you refuse to give up.

The fact is that, you will be knocked down on many occasions and when you are, just look up to the Creator that can lift you up to continue the journey and guide your steps.

You don't need to be depressed and give up because you are knocked down. Arise from the depression in which circumstances have kept you through divine help and rise to a new life so that you can complete the race successfully.

Instead of staying down there be inspired to get up to and reach up.

Path without obstacles

Let me quickly tell you.
I wish you quickly understand that any path without obstacles do not lead to your desired destination.
Don't think the journey of life will be smooth, but what I know is that "no matter what, you shall get to your promised land safely.

Be grateful for the good health

A man reached 70 years of age and was affected by a disease which made him unable to urinate.

The doctors told him that he needs an operation to cure the disease.

He agreed to do the operation as the problem was giving him severe pain for days.

When the operation was completed the doctor gave him a bill which covered all the costs.

After looking at the bill, the man started crying. Upon seeing this, the doctor said "If the cost is too high then we could make some other arrangements for you.

"The old man replied, "I am not crying because of the money but I am crying because God let me urinate for 70 years and He never sent me a bill!"

Beloved, have you thanked God for His countless blessings today?

Have you thought about the cost of oxygen in the hospital? Yet, God has given us free oxygen (air) since we were born.

Can we not see that God is so gracious, merciful and full of compassion?

If you are truly grateful to God for your life, share this post to others, not because you expect a blessing but because you are grateful.

I'm grateful!!!



1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.

2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper.

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret
them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.

8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband's right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It's very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty. No man can withstand on starvation for too long (even the anointed

11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.

21). Don't be too judgmental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.

24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.
26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.

28) A confrontational wife, can never keep a good husband and her home, she will be grooming irresponsible daughters without manners.

29) A woman who cannot manage her children, home and  husband is a complete failure in life no matter her achievements.

30) A wise woman honors her husband, and respect him, in turn the husband will cherish her and love her dearly - it will be natural. Husband is a beautiful gift from God, no woman can stay without a husband. No good man on earth can tolerate a confrontational and argumentative wife except they have lost their value and become less of a real man.

31). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.

32). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.

33). A prayerful wife is very wise and intelligent and she  is a  better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family. Conquer all your challenges and problems with prayers, only Christ can solve our problems - not parent, not pastors, not anybody but, only you and Christ.

Please share this with every woman you know because you may never know whose marriage you are about to save. And to every man so that the women in their lives can be better guided.

Source: Mrs Joyce Meyer
USA TV Evangelist

Something to think about

1. Take risks in your life. If you win, you can lead; if you lose, you can guide.

2. People are not what they say but what they do; so judge them not from their words but from their actions.

3.  In this world, people will always throw stones on the path of your success. It depends on what you make from them - a wall or a bridge.

4. Challenges make life interesting; overcoming them make life meaningful.

5. There is no joy in victory without running the risk of defeat.

6. A path without obstacles leads nowhere.

7. Past is a nice place to visit but certainly not a good place to stay.

8. You can't have a better tomorrow if you are thinking about yesterday all the time.

9. If what you did yesterday still looks big to you, then you haven't done much today.

10. If you don't build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

11. If you don't climb the mountain; you can't view the plain.

12. Don't leave it idle - use your brain.

13. You are not paid for having brain, you are only rewarded for using it intelligently.

14. It is not what you don't have that limits you; it is what you have but don't know how to use. 

15. What you fail to learn might teach you a lesson.

16. Honesty is an expensive gift; don't expect it from cheap people.

Beautiful message

A rich man looked through his window and saw a poor man picking something from his dustbin ... He said, Thank GOD I'm not poor.

The poor man looked around and saw a naked man misbehaving on the street ... He said, Thank GOD I'm not mad.

The mad man looked ahead and saw an ambulance carrying a patient ... He said, Thank GOD am not sick.

Then a sick person in hospital saw a trolley taking a dead body to the mortuary ... He said, Thank GOD I'm not dead.

Only a dead person cannot thank God.

Why don't you thank GOD today for all your blessings and for the gift of life ... for another beautiful day.

What is LIFE?
To understand life better, you have to go to 3 locations :

1. Hospital
2. Prison
3. Cemetery

🏥 At the Hospital, you will understand that nothing is more beautiful than HEALTH.

🔐 In the Prison, you'll see that FREEDOM is the most precious thing.

💐 At the Cemetery, you will realize that life is worth nothing. The ground that we walk today will be our roof tomorrow.

Sad Truth :  We all come with Nothing and we will go with Nothing ... Let us, therefore, remain humble and be thankful & grateful to God at all times for everything.

One yes from God is enough

There are moments when troubles enter our lives and we can do nothing to avoid them. But they are there for a reason. Only when we have overcome them will we understand why they were there. The harder you fall, the heavier your heart; the heavier your heart, the stronger you climb; the stronger you climb, the higher your pedestal. You cannot expect victory and plan for defeat but at the end of the day always and in all ways remember You can get a thousand no's from people, and only one "yes" from God.. Have a blessed day and remember safety first in all you do....